Closure Doesn’t Always Come

Closure isn’t something we always receive even though we tend to believe that we should. It would be great, ideal in fact, if we could always end things with a concluding conversation, a deep explanation, or a final moment that makes everything “make sense” and provide relief. However, after you’ve lived life long enough, you start to notice one of life’s uncomfortable truths: moments of reciprocal closure rarely ever come.

People, no matter what the situation, are prone to leave without providing any explanation. They may leave knowing no resolution has been met and no clarity is left. The story just ends. Of course, we do that to avoid the discomfort that comes from these types of endings, right? So, what do we do? We wait. We replay things over and over and over in our minds trying to recreate the situation so that we can create answers for situations in which none were given. Our logical minds tell us that if we create just the right version of what happened or what went wrong, we could establish understanding, thus find the peace that we so much desire.

But consider this: what if closure was never meant to come in the way we expected it to? What if it comes, but it comes at the very moment you stop asking the situation to explain itself to you? Important emotional maturity shifts occur when you start considering that the situations that don’t find closure may not need the resolution you think it does. Some things (many things) are simply completely completed even when it doesn’t leave you satisfied.

This is where we find recognition and acceptance. It means that though we do not find understanding in all things, it’s okay because we no longer need to. Again, it’s a relaxing and calming experience when peace follows explanation, but this shows that sometimes it simply doesn’t.

Stay mindful…..

Rebirth