Every Day Doesn’t Need to Be Meaningful

Make every day count! How often do you hear that cliché? I bet I hear it (or something remarkably close to it) at least once a week for the last 40 years. What I hear when someone says that is we need to be more productive. We need to be more intentional. We need to be consistently moving forward. There is no doubt in my mind that this mindset can be unbelievably valuable and very purposeful. But I am afraid that without a proper reframe of that, we are creating a need to justify each day’s worth. The more likely truth, however, is that not every day is meant to stand out in that way.

Come on. Let’s be honest with ourselves. Some days are just plain uneventful. They don’t bring world-changing breakthroughs, major progress or anything that even feels…. particularly memorable. And this is okay. I realize when you compare them to those novel days where everything is changing all around you in dramatic fashion, these slower days pale in comparison.

Those slower days serve an entirely different purpose. These are foundational and stability-building days. We can use these days to reset and allow our energy to return. Meaningful days are energy-draining (hopefully, for positive results, of course) and they are filled with pressure. Conversely, the slower days hold our routines together and support parts of our life that don’t need that constant intensity. When we stop expecting every day to serve as some monumental experience, you begin to live your time in life differently. The pressure is lessened. And when the pressure is lessened, you don’t have to perform as if that significant moment is on shoulders depending on you for life. Then, maybe that will free you to exist within your life just as it is.

Realizing this may be a hard adjustment for some. Life is advertised as exciting and full of significant moments. For those of you, I say this: as we lower our guards in these moments (the moments where we realize there are some days that are just meant to be normal and uneventful), ironically, that’s a suitable time for meaning to show up on its own (without force) and without any expectation of it. Meaningful moments arise in unnoticed ways and because we have lowered that guard, we have inadvertently created the space for it to emerge on its own.

The Kind Rebirth approach understands that not everything in life is “stand-out” worthy. Each day is valuable because they are simply the thread that joins the memorable and unmemorable moments. Don’t be fooled, each is equally is important.

Stay mindful….

Rebirth