The Rebirth of Vulnerability

Whenever we begin a new relationship, there is always an element of vulnerability that we invite in. I think it just comes with the territory. It’s not a bad thing. It’s just something that we, especially the male of the species, have to do if we want to connect with our partner or potential mate. It feels weird and unusual in some cases because we are acting out a role to which we rarely ever have to play. Too many times, however, we begin to abandon who we are. That may be pushing the envelope a little too far and unnecessary if our goal is to love and maintain balance. Kind Rebirths of love teach us how to open our hearts and our minds simultaneously while staying grounded in our own emotions and personal well-being.

When we let ourselves go getting lost in new love, we sometimes fail to recognize things that are usually second nature to us. For example, how many times do we find ourselves giving more than we are receiving (speaking in relative terms, of course)? How many times have we sacrificed our own beliefs or ways of life to become more accommodating? How often have we given in when in normal life, we stand firm and are pretty no nonsense? These moments are not failures and I wouldn’t even call them moments of weakness. I would call them moments of learning. These are moments of mindful necessitation. A rebirth calls forward mindfulness to help us spot and identify when opportunities arise that allow us to return back to who we are, to whom we intend to be and become.

I believe in vulnerability. Not that it exists, but that’s important. It’s important to be human and feel human feelings. Let vulnerability unfold but carefully. Released in gradual and concerted movements, we allow for trust to be born from symbiosis and not need. It eliminates the fear of being too one-sided in relationships. Mindfulness supports balance and compassionate intentions. As we reflect, we start asking all-important questions like, are we sharing for connection or are we sharing to be chosen? When we let down that guard to let someone in, are we choosing the value of closeness or are we choosing the direction that allows us to stay aligned with and within ourselves? Being vulnerable is a Kind Rebirth experience.

Remember, new love connections doesn’t require constant availability or for us to over extend ourselves emotionally. We strive and long to feel safe in all conditions, but more to this point, safe to grow at the pace that you both define as beneficial. When staying in mindful thought, we use the rebirth of vulnerability from a place of strength rather than one of risk. In my life and in my past, I wish I had learned the path of intimacy and not the path of urgency. But whatever has transpired, we learn that vulnerability does not work against consistency or respect. In this space, let’s let the vulnerability of love expand us rather than consume us.

Stay mindful…

Rebirth