Spiritual Language Can Hide Emotional Work
I am starting this one post out with a quick disclaimer about words and terminology. The concept of Spiritual Language in the Kind Rebirths space isn’t about a particular system of religious beliefs and how we refer to or speak to any creator being. It’s much more surface level in this regard. We are speaking to the tones of speech or way in which we talk about life. This includes both pleasure and pain, happiness and sadness, fear and vigilance. These are ways of talking that sound more elevated or wise or peace or transcending. For example, how many times do we say, “Everything happens for a reason”, “Let it go”, or “It’s all part of your journey.” These are things commonly said. I am included. I talk about letting go and learning as part of a larger journey of understanding and connection. But for the context of this post, I want to discuss another Uncomfortable Truth that we should be prepared for as we move forward on this journey. So let’s begin.
The Spiritual Language described here has a very unique and distinctive quality. It has the ability to be soothing. It can orient us when we are confused or unsettled. It also can be used as a reminder that we are, indeed, part of a larger system of connection that surpasses these seemingly undesirable events or occurrences in our lives. While they prove to be a significant source of comfort, we should also remain wise to the fact that they can be used to avoid the very emotions that may need to be addressed.
Again, as mentioned above, phrases like “everything happens for a reason” is certainly something uttered often but offered with care and compassion. Sometimes, however, they are offered too hastily and cause us to bypass those feelings without being given its due and proper attention. Feelings like grief, anger, and disappointment, emotions we seek to avoid, are a natural part of the human existence and must be experienced in order to live a healthy life of balance. As such, they often get trampled over in the rush to heal.
Rushing to get over something bad is another instinct of the human quality. But what is actually being rushed is the actual act of healing. Let’s use the feeling mentioned above starting with grief. I’d bet you’ve heard before that a person who has recently lost someone needs “time to grieve”. This is true. Grief needs to be acknowledged. Through acknowledgment wisdom is transformed. Anger needs an outlet or audience (within reason, of course) before it is transformed into clarity. Fear wants to feel safe and secure before it can become trust. Moving hurriedly past these essential steps may sound good, but they are extremely ambitious because there are still elements inside of us that have not yet been resolved.
Using Spiritual Language to bypass the healing process gives the impression of healing and may cause someone to appear calm. But that’s on the surface. Inside, if left unattended, pain goes unprocessed because it has not yet addressed the truth and source of the pain. A Kind Rebirth invites people to be honest before they seek to transcend, examine and assess these undesirable feelings before moving on. While rebirths ask you to remain in the moment, so too do those negative feelings. They need their moment to seek resolution properly without suppression. Remember from other posts, mindfulness is not rushing to remove negative thoughts, it is meant to give it authentic acknowledgment to learn the lesson and then it is released.
Rushing to heal when someone is not quite ready does not make us fake and it doesn’t make us insincere or disingenuous. It makes us human. Skipping the process of facing the truth may not bring you the peace you want; that comes when truth becomes grounded. Allow yourself to feel fully, even if it takes a longer period of time than you want and even if it’s uncomfortable.
Stay mindful.
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