What This Looks Like in Real Life
When we speak about awareness and clarity, it’s easy to explain and talk with others about the differences between the two or to explain how it falls into the Kind Rebirths system. But to understand what it looks like in everyday life is something else. And it’s fair to say that this is something worth taking a step back to discuss it for a moment.
Clarity and awareness equally are events that may appear in life unexpectedly. It doesn’t show up as a big moment with a huge announcement, nor does it tap you on the shoulder and quietly whisper that it’s arrived. There is rarely any dramatic realizations or sudden shifts that changes your world overnight like TV and movies would have you believe. In fact, it’s one of the most practical experiences that you may encounter. The key is recognition of its arrival when it does stop at your doorstep. And that recognition is just as important as its presence.
I wouldn’t be surprised if it shows up in the middle of something you do every day, like in the middle of doing something ordinary. For example, when someone begins to feel exhausted and starts to think they are burning out, in many cases, the natural response is to try and escape the situation. They may feel taking time off is necessary, or they need to disconnect for a while, or maybe they just want to blame the events that got them there and feeling that way. But by considering slowing down and attempting to look more carefully, they realize that they aren’t really burned out like they think they are. Maybe they are overextended.
That pattern of life of taking on more has become so ingrained that it’s normal to say yes to whatever else is piled on their plate. But in reality, they are reaching their personal limits of how much they can carry. So, when they apply clarity to the situation, ideally we see the response change. Instead of making drastic decisions, or in some cases taking more negative actions, they start setting boundaries to reduce the load that they are carrying. In essence, the situation has improved not because everything around them has changed, but because their understanding of themselves has increased through clarity and awareness.
Let’s look at another example. I found this very problematic in my own life. Have you ever found yourself becoming easily irritated and agitated with the people around you? They aren’t doing anything intentional mind you, but everything they do seems to bug you. It’s often very petty as even the smallest things seem bigger than they should be. Just having a simple conversation becomes worrisome. To an average person, we may assume that the issue is the other person. But inserting a moment to pause with clarity may present a different conclusion. Perhaps the receiver here, like the one above, has reached a mental and emotional ceiling and they have not yet acknowledged it. This is very possible. I’ve seen it before. But keep in mind something important: the realization doesn’t resolve the problem completely (it is only a part); but how we respond is the focal point. Sometimes we are too quick to place a blame on something that has no direct effect on the cause.
When we are faced with these scenarios, we start to feel a lack of motivation, and we start to assume something is wrong with us. This does not end where we want it to because we start to push back by pushing harder to fix something with an energy that we really don’t have. It’s up to us to decide when to step back. Doing so may grant us the foresight to see that this isn’t because of a lack of discipline or lack of willingness. It is a lack of connection. When what we do loses alignment with who we are, we start forcing ourselves to fix it rather than to reconsider how we are engaging in it.
In these moments above (and there are thousands of others we all probably face), the dramatic action we want doesn’t happen on the surface. There aren’t any magic wands to wave and create instant solutions. The important work is happening underneath. When we do the mindful work of pausing to stop reacting to what we think are issues and begin to respond to what is actually there, this is what awareness and clarity in real life looks like.
The Kind Rebirth ecosystem isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about seeing clearly enough that your responses and reactions need to mirror true source issues appropriately. From there, things begin to move differently causing the subtle changes we need or desire.
Stay mindful….
Rebirth.
