Why Does Some Love Feel Like a Memory
Some connections we have with others feel like there was never a beginning. It’s like we have met them before, but in truth, we may never have. There is a bond, but it’s unexplainable. The best I can use to describe it is to refer to it as a “return”.
Have you ever met someone in which you felt a dramatic rush or an obvious spark? You can point to them and say, “I know we’ve never met, but I feel like we know each other already?”. It’s something about that familiarity. You share similar pasts; you share similar events that have happened in the past that have shaped their lives in similar ways; or trust them on sight with no reason at all that would support it. You have become wonderfully comfortable around them and you barely know their name. It doesn’t make logical sense. What is even more illogical is that you know how to be with them.
This is something important to me. I appreciate the mystical connections shared between creator and humankind and also the connections we share between each other. While what I am referring to above is more like what some may call soulmates or a metaphysical connection, I certainly don’t refer to it as fantasy. Destiny, I think, is appropriate, but even that is too limiting. Here in the Kind Rebirth space, I like to describe it as an emotional memory rebirth.
The heart appropriately and keenly remembers what feels safe, what feels comfortable. It remembers what life is like when we are seen or when we have connections that don’t require us to put on false images or masks. It loves when we meet someone who carries the same emotion and sense of presence and purpose. The heart likes recognition. Perhaps it’s because we’ve met in another type of existence or perhaps it is a return to self of who we once were or long to be.
Loving someone deeply in the past may have taught us to be open and honest, how to trust. It probably has taught us how to be vulnerable or to be more kind. And even if (or when) that relationship has finished running its course, it has left an informal imprint of the experiences that were shared and it stays with you. This is how we understand emotional closeness.
Now, put yourself in that space where you meet someone (seemingly) new and you both share the same language of emotional memory. It suddenly transforms from something new to something remembered. This is the rebirth of memory and sharing with others.
When this happens, and I have been fortunate to experience it, it can be a confusing time. You may wonder why you are so attached so quickly or why there is an undeniable connection that is deeper than it should be. I think it’s because it’s bigger than just the person alone. It’s the you that has learned to love resonating with what you have learned about love and a connection with a like-minded spirit. This is a kind of rebirth.
Everything I try and demonstrate here speaks to not going back to the past (but honoring its imprint). Where it differs is that we want to bring forward with us all of the positive things we have gained from past experiences and from the many lessons we’ve learned.
Here, we believe that these feelings and these connections (or reconnections) are the gifts brought forth from heartbreak and heart-mending. Broken relationships leave us gifts that can be used later. It is a demonstration of the alignment of heart and mind showing you how unexplainably good connections can feel. Fortunately, that feeling never disappears; it waits quietly and patiently.
When someone new crosses your path and they find you in that place of honest and truthful presence, the feeling is undeniable. And when you have opened yourself up enough to find someone who knows this and understands this and finds their way back to you, that normal feeling of starting from scratch is non-existent. It’s like you are picking up where you left off. And depending on your beliefs, it may be just that – a continuation. It may not be the same relationship, but the capacity to bond is the same.
Consider this when you start to think about old love, new love, or prospective love. Maybe that’s why some love feels remembered. It’s not new or old; it’s realigned.
Stay mindful.
Rebirth
